Building confidence

The first step to self-confidence is self-discovery

Find yourself. Who are you?

Do you know that you are the most important asset to yourself? Every external element, no matter how precious or powerful, can produce no impact until it collides with the champion in you

If you do not know who you are, and you do not understand you value, your destiny will be short-changed

Take a journey of self-discovery. Your shortcomings are nothing compared to your abilities

Maximise on your abilities and unfold the treasure within you

You cannot live a progressive life on what you could have been, but on what you are and what you can become, when you walk your own life journey

Love who you are, unconditionally.

You can achieve all your dreams when you understand your worth

Then you will walk with your head held up high, as you understand that no matter how bright the other star may shine, it can never take your place in the galaxy of life



You lived in a shadow, hidden in a crowd

You shun from the limelight

You seemed empty, kept your head low

You clapped and cheered to many, but never took a step for your own life


Today you have found yourself, your light, your zest

You are shinning, you are no longer in a shell

You are a butterfly

This is your time to sparkle, to shine, to forge your way to destiny


Your enemy will rather have you on your yesterday

Many voices will remind you of your shortcomings

They will try to demean your sparkle

By reminding you how you were yesterday

Do not oblige. Yesterday was just a landmark of your journey

It is history, not your definition

For yesterday they could not see the true you

They thought you were all you could be


Refuse to stay on yesterday

Yours is today, and your eyesight should be on tomorrow

Cos that’s where you are going

Even your Creator neither call you by yesterday nor today

He calls you by who you should be tomorrow

He calls you by your destiny

Take your eyes off yesterday, embrace today, and reach out for tomorrow


Dear Daughter

You are one of a kind; always hold your head high

In life you will be exposed to different people, personalities and characters, Remain true to yourself. Never compromise  your values.

Avoid company of women who gossip about other people’s dress codes, time is too precious for that. Rather seek company of women who talk about ideas and concepts.

Always endeavor to be your better self, not to be better than someone else. Life is not a competition; you have your own unique journey.

Do not hold on to negative emotions, like grudges and bitterness. They will devour and drain you; they will distort the person you are made to be.

Your face will eventually have lines as you get older, they rather be laughing lines. Keep smiling, laughter is like medicine.

A hand washes another hand, always return kindness with kindness, and never forget to be there for friends who have been there for you.

Life will knock you down sometimes. When that happens get on your knees and call upon God, never be too big for God. Never allow yourself to remain down, against all odds get up again and keep going, God will help you.

The wise book says there is time and season for everything. In your dark seasons always remember that the sun will shine again.

The world is your stage. Go be your best.

With love,

5. Discerning your seasons


Never miss the preparation season. There is more power on the ‘behind the scene’ season than the ‘on-stage’ season. If the preparation behind the scene is not done well, the on-stage part will be flawed. Basically:

  • Don’t rush to be out there until you are ready, and it is the right time for you.
  • At times you just have to wait. It seems as if there is not much happening while you wait, but actually there is actually much happening in building and strengthening the person you are.
  • The dream may be too grandeur and you are very excited to see it unfolding, but every dream will always be challenged. If you were not prepared as a person to withstand those storms, you may drop your dream because of the heat that is too much for you to handle.

When the right season, the right opportunity, the right door opens for you; it should find you ready. While waiting it is your season to equip yourself, sharpen your skills, improve yourself. You better be ready to give your all when the right time presents itself.

Agree with God’s timing, it’s always the best.

4. Self-Discipline…..

(Optimize your life series continuation)

Self-discipline is a learned behavior, and not a natural instinct. If discipline is instilled at a young age, as an adult it will seem like one is naturally born like that. Human nature wants to indulge, it seeks comfort and it seeks to satisfy an immediate need. Self-discipline will teach you to wait. It will teach you to deny yourself certain things in order to attain what is of more worth or benefit for your life in the long run.

Self-discipline will teach you to adapt to uncomfortable circumstances; and make the most out of them. There is no hero in sports or arts or any form of talent who had not mastered the art of self-discipline.

To achieve any of your goals you have to master the habit of discipline.  You have to consciously make an effort to practice discipline in whatever area where you see a need, until it becomes second nature to you.

The spiritual way of learning discipline is fasting. While fasting; the goal may be to achieve or accomplish something spiritual, yet the secondary result of the exercise is self-discipline.

To optimize your life you need to discipline yourself in the way you spend time. Plan your activities and train yourself to do them, regardless of how you feel. At the end of the day tick all the activities that you successfully finished as planned, and reward yourself if you achieved what you set out to do. Do this until it becomes second nature to you.

Self-discipline will help you to avoid what could jeopardize your future in the long run. You have no other choice but to learn discipline, as it determines the chances of living the life of your dreams.


OPTIMIZE YOUR LIFE (4)….What is the reason for your existence?

3. Finding your core mission

What is your main reason for existing? It may seem like a great mystery hidden somewhere, but the answer is right there within you.

It is possible to be very busy but with things that are not your main core for existence. Once you get to know the purpose of your life you need to shed all the business of life that is taking you nowhere and prioritize your life calling. Your fulfillment will come from expressing all of you in the beautiful way that only you can do, and leave a mark in your field.

It is great to be handy, available, be of service whenever and wherever the opportunity rises. But considering the resource of time (from the previous post); always make your decisions of using your time effectively based on accomplishing the core mission of your existence.

All your decisions on personal development, career progression, or even settling on a particular location; are easy to make when you know your core mission. Your core mission could be a career, business, artistry, sports, etc. The most exciting accomplishment would be to excel on whatever your core mission is.

Don’t make a mistake of pleasing everyone at the expense of what you are actually here on this earth for.